• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths, not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior

Those who think in terms of leniency versus strictness will be surprised. This book goes beyond these issues to teach children to be responsible and self-reliant not through outer-directed concerns, such as fear and intimidation, but through inner-directed behavior, such as feeling accountable for one's commitments. Inside, you'll discover how to instill character-building values and traits in your child that last a lifetime.

In this book, bestselling parenting author Jane Nelsen shows you how to make time-out a positive learning experience for children. Inside, you'll discover how positive time-out can teach children the art of self-discipline and instill such invaluable qualities as self-confidence and problem-solving skills.

• Make time-out an encouraging experience
• Develop an attitude and action plan to avoid power struggles with children
• Empower children by involving them in the behavior changing process
• Understand the mistaken goals of negative behavior

Sibling Rivalry
Bedtime Hassles
School Problems
Getting Chores Done
ADHD
Eating Problems
Procrastination
Whining
Tattling and Lying
Homework Battles
And Dozens More!

Adolescence is often a time of great stress and turmoil not only for kids going through it, but for you, their parents as well. During the teen years, kids aggressively begin to explore a new sense of freedom, which often leads to feelings of resentment and powerlessness for parents who increasingly are excluded from their children's lives. This revised edition of Positive Discipline for Teenagers shows you how to break the destructive cycle of guilt and blame and work toward greater understanding and communication with your adolescents. Inside, you'll:

• Find out how to encourage your teen and yourself
• Grow to understand how your teen still needs you, but in different ways
• Learn how to get to know who your teen really is
• Discover how to develop sound judgment without being judgmental
• Learn how to use follow-through the only surefire way to get chores done

Caring for young children is one of the most challenging tasks an adult will ever face. No matter how much you love your child, there will be moments filled with frustration, anger, and even desperation. There will also be questions: Why does my four-year-old deliberately lie to me? Why wont my three-year-old listen to me? Should I ever spank my preschooler when she is disobedient? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the Positive Discipline series and its commonsense approach to child-rearing.
Now completely updated to report the latest research in child development and learning, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers will teach you how to use methods to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. You'll find practical solutions for how to:

• Avoid the power struggles that often come with mastering sleeping, eating, and potty training
• See misbehavior as an opportunity to teach non-punitive discipline not punishment
• Instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home by using methods that teach important life skills
• Employ family and class meetings to tackle behavioral challenges
• And much, much more!

Many teachers today are facing problems and discipline issues they never dreamed of when they decided to become teachers. Combine violence, behavioral disorders, and downright defiant attitudes from students with the age-old problems of bullying, poor attendance, and more, and the mix is positively lethal. However, there are effective, positive strategies for restoring order and turning the teacher-student relationship into one of mutual respect.

Applicable to all grade levels, this comprehensive A to Z guide addresses modern-day problems and practical solutions for establishing an effective learning environment. Inside, you'll discover:

• The 17 fundamental tools of positive discipline
• Real-life stories of proven positive discipline strategies
• Suggestions for establishing and maintaining respectful, nurturing relationships with students
• And much more!

Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust Jane Nelsen's classic Positive Discipline series. These books offer a commonsense approach to child-rearing that so often is lacking in today's world. In Positive Discipline: The First Three Years, you'll learn how to use kind but firm support to raise a child who is both capable and confident. You'll find practical solutions and solid advice on how to:

• Encourage independence and exploration while providing appropriate boundaries
• Use non-punitive methods to instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home
• Recognize when your child is ready to master the challenges of sleeping, eating, and potty training, and how to avoid the power struggles that often come with those lessons
• Identify your child's temperament
• Understand what the latest research in brain development tells us about raising healthy children
• And much, much more!

Many other parenting tools that can be used with children under the age of three -- and even more that can be used with four and five-year-olds. How to get children to cooperate because they "want" to. How to help your children develop the believe that, "I am capable, I can contribute in meaningful ways, and I can use my power in useful ways.

• Why punishment doesn't work--and what to do instead to encourage children to learn valuable social and life skills for good character.
  
  
• Why children misbehave--and how to "deal with the belief behind the behavior" and to use the kind of encouragement that invites cooperation.
  
  
• How to use non-punitive parenting tools that help children develop the belief that, "I am capable, and I can used my personal power in constructive, contributing ways."
  
  
• How to empower children--and yourself in the process.

Enhance your experience with a CD containing an Activity/Resource guide to personalize and deepen your learning of the 40 tools that empower you to empower your children.

• Children feel a sense of connection. (Belonging and Significance)
  
  
• Children feel respected and encouraged. (Kind and firm at the same time)
  
  
• Methods are effective long-term. (Punishment works short term, but has negative long-term results.)
  
  
• Children learn valuable social and life skills for good character. (Respect, concern for others, problem-solving, cooperation)
  
  
• Children discover how capable they are. (Encourages the constructive use of personal power and autonomy)

• Why punishment doesn't work--and what to do instead to encourage children to learn valuable social and life skills for good character.
  
  
• Why children misbehave--and how to "deal with the belief behind the behavior" and to use the kind of encouragement that invites cooperation.
  
  
• How to use non-punitive parenting tools that help children develop the belief that, "I am capable, and I can used my personal power in constructive, contributing ways."
  
  
• How to empower children--and yourself in the process.

For many years we have wondered how we could provide training for people who are unable to attend our live 2-day workshops. The DVD training includes experiential activities so you can at least watch others participating in the activities and learning to teach the activities. Then you can practice the activities with friends or a “practice group.”

Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott have completed a DVD training that includes 6 1/2 hours filmed at a live training and requires about 5 1/2 hours of homework to practice the skills in order to receive a certificate as a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator (and 12 continuing education hours CEUS for California license holders that are regulated by the Board of Behavioral Sciences—which may be accepted by other organizations.). At the end of this training, you will be ready to lead parenting classes and/or improve your skills as a parent educator regardless of the setting in which you work (counseling office, pre-school, etc.)

The cost of the training is $195.00 and you can watch it over and over. It includes the following materials:

• 5 DVDS
• A Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way manual (If you already have the Teaching Parenting Manual, purchase Package No. 2)
• A DVD Training Guide manual
• A Positive Discipline book
• A Positive Discipline A-Z book
• The Positive Discipline Tool Cards
• Certificate upon completion.

A Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator certificate will be awarded to you once the Answer Sheet is completed (including order #) and emailed to Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott, and approved by them. The work involved to complete the answer sheet (14 questions) takes about 5 1/2 hours above and beyond listening to the DVD’s because it includes practicing some of the experiential activities and the Parents Helping Parents Problem-Solving Steps with friends. For California residents, 12 CEUs are available at the completion of the course. You may want to check to see if your organization will accept these CEUs—as some do.

Package #3 - $100 (Click Here) is for a certificate only when more than one person wants to share materials, but they would also like to become certified. This does not include any materials, but allows someone to become certified if they are sharing the materials.

There is also one more Package #4 - $145 (Click Here) for people who want to share the DVD's but need their own Teaching Parenting Manual and books and would like to become a certified parent educator. This package includes everything but the DVD's and allows the participant to become certified after completing the DVD Training.

Save airfare and hotel costs when you can't find a live training near you--and enjoy the workshop in the comfort of your own home. Find a friend and do the workshop together.

A hallmark of the Positive Discipline workshops (and classes) is experiential activities. Role-playing is the most profound way to learn, not only in your head, but also in your heart and gut. Participating in experiential activities and role-playing is the best way to “get into the child’s world” to understand what children are thinking, feeling, and deciding in response to the discipline methods used with them. How else can we really understand the long-term effects of discipline methods? Even parents who initially resist role-playing soon discover how much more they learn when they participate (or at least watch others role-playing). They soon give up their resistance and enjoy the fun and deep learning from experiential activities.

Another hallmark of Positive Discipline workshops is how much participants learn from each other. You will learn how to avoid long lectures and invite participants to share what they are learning from “getting into the child’s world” through the experiential activities. The insights they share with each other is much more meaningful and heartfelt than any lectures they could hear from “experts.”

Another great hallmark of Positive Discipline parenting classes that you will learn is the Parents Helping Parents Problem-Solving-Steps. During each parenting class, a volunteer parent shares a specific challenge with a child and you, the facilitator, lead the parent through a 14 step process that includes role-playing to “get into the child’s world,” and involves the whole group to brainstorm for solutions. This is very empowering to everyone one. The volunteer then chooses one suggestion and role-plays practicing it, or being the child to experience what the suggestion “feels” like to the child. This soon becomes the favorite part of every parenting class where all the Positive Discipline tools come together for practical application for “real” challenges.

The disadvantage is that video training cannot provide the same energy as participating in a live workshop.

The advantages are:

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52 Positive Discipline Tools to Improve your Parenting Skills

3 Ways to have fun with the deck:

1. Choose one card and practice for a week. In one year you'll be a perfect parent or you can start again.

2. When faced with a challenge, choose a card at random. Chances are that it will be the perfect tool to solve the problem while teaching your child self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation, and problem-solving skills or you can try another card.

3. Invite your children to choose a card and let you know if it is the tool that will solve the problem or keep choosing until they find one that will.

LEARNING OBJECTIVES:

• Understand motivations for misbehavior and how to respectfully encourage change in ways that eliminates most discipline problems.
• Be able to identify the four mistaken beliefs that lead to misbehavior.
• Learn how to encourage students and set limits using kindness and firmness at the same time.
• Learn tools to effectively lead a classroom based on cooperation and mutual respect instead of control.
• Learn how to teach students the Eight Building Blocks for effective class meetings.
• Learn how to teach life skills (self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation, problem solving etc) so that students can cooperate and learn successfully in the classroom.
• Learn a useful set of problem solving steps for really "tough" problems.
• Have a deeper understanding of human behavior and what motivates positive change.
• Have a set of resource materials for future reference.
• In addition to this course, our Positive Discipline Associates offer whole school trainings and whole school follow-ups to give you continued educational support. Call for an associate near you.

TOOLS:
The workshop is full of useful tools for use in various school settings that help students practice the skills in situations relevant to them. Class meetings provide an invaluable structure for teaching students the skills they need to work together to solve problems, to be respectful to others, and to make school an engaging place to learn.

EXPERIENTIAL FOCUS
Research confirms that we learn more deeply and internalize change more successfully when actively practicing the principles we are learning. Participants will learn to lead experiential activities, demonstrations, and role plays that help students internalize cooperation, mutual respect, a sense of capability, and a desire to contribute. All activities are designed to help participants leave the workshop prepared to implement the three criteria for discipline that empowers:
1. Respectful
2. Effective Long-Term
3. Provides opportunities for the development of social and life skills

For years we have wanted to create a Positive Discipline Workbook. However, I did not want it to be a boring, fill in the blanks workbook. Then I discovered Diane Durands illustrations and felt inspired to finish the project in a different way.

Each lesson in this Positive Discipline Workbook is filled with illustrations to capture your interest and tell the Positive Discipline story better than words alone. Experiential activities and parenting tools are included in each lesson. In the first lesson you will learn what to do when your child wont listen. You'll also learn what happens when your buttons are pushed.

The Positive Discipline Workbook book can be used for self-study. Or, you may want to invite friends for a parenting party and learn together. Each lesson includes an outline that can be used for a two-hour presentation that includes experiential activities. The workbook is designed to be used with the Positive Discipline Book and the Positive Discipline Tool Cards, or it can stand alone.

Workbook Topics Include:

Lesson One
What Do You Want for your Children?

Lesson Two
What is Positive Discipline?
Kind AND Firm
Positive Time Out

Lesson Three
Sibling Rivalry
Belief Behind the Behavior
Mistaken Goal Chart

Lesson Four
Encouragement
Routine Charts

Lesson Five
Connection Before Correction
Natural and Logical Consequences
Focusing on Solutions through Family Meetings
Wheels of Choice

Lesson SIX
What is My Part? (Lifestyle Priorities)
Mistakes as Opportunities to Learn
Empowering Vs Enabling

Every child deserves to lead a happy and fulfilling life. For parents and teachers of children with special needs, helping their child to not only negotiate daily challenges, but to live fulfilling, meaningful lives, can be the most difficult challenge they will face.

Over the years, millions of parents and teachers have come to trust Jane Nelsens classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to childrearing. Now, the bestselling series addresses the specific challenges that parents and teachers of children with special needs face, and offers them straightforward advice for supporting them in positive ways. In these pages are practical solutions to challenges such as:

• Learning to look beyond diagnostic labels
• Believing in each child's potential regardless of his/her stage of development
• Helping children integrate socially and interact with their peers
• Coping with the frustration that inevitably occurs when a child is being difficult
• Strengthening a childs sense of belonging and significance
• And Many More!

Use this book to answer such questions as:

• How do you accommodate a disability, while still teaching a child to try their best?
• How do you help a child cope with anger they may have trouble expressing, especially when that anger may on some level be justified?
• How do you teach a child who may struggle with seemingly straight forward tasks to contribute to the world around them in a way that will be meaningful to them?

If you are raising or teaching a child with special needs, this book is a must-read. As the mother of a child with autism, my hopes and dreams for my son were no different than those of other parents. I wanted a parenting approach that helped my child grow up to be self confident, happy, and prepared for success in relationships, work, and life. I also needed practical, effective methods for addressing the significant, challenging behaviors I faced on a daily basis. Finally, in this amazing book, I found both.Thank you, thank you, thank you to the authors of this groundbreaking book. - Rachel Fink Parks, MS, PCC

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